Negotiation Wars – Men Vs Women

There are many factors that go into any negotiation- what style you use (competitive collaborative, accommodating), cultural issues that impact values and habits, and lastly gender. Men and women negotiate differently.

“I want this for this amount,” is a male statement with a goal focus.

“I’d like to know how you came up with that number,” is a female negotiation statement, which is more open ended.

Men view negotiations as a one time event. They are better at negotiating for themselves and reaching individual goals. They are usually more competitive.

Women, on the other hand, often let negotiation opportunities go by, set low goals and concede easily. Unlike men, usually women let their emotions show through, but are more about mutual gains than individualistic tendencies.

Neither style is right or wrong. There are suggestions so that men and women can negotiate more effectively, especially when it is a long term relationship whether business or personal.

First there should be a correcting of impressions. Also look to taking turns talking and possibly moving physically closer together than staying farther apart. Take the opportunities to ask questions. Negotiation, in this case, does require preparation. This would not be a one time negotiation to buy a car, for example.

Men and women can have successful negotiations with a little understanding of the differences that each brings. It is not a hindrance, but a chance to learn how to communicate effectively and for women, an opportunity to level the playing field where sometimes they feel at a disadvantage.